As humans, the feeling of inadequacy can drive us nuts, therefore we feel we must do something when our child(ren) misbehaves. Most parents also need to understand the toddler’s psychology, at that age, they do not have a full control over their emotions, hence the tantrums.
We shall consider a couple of ways to manage a toddler’s tantrums in following tips
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UNDERSTANDING
Often times, parents and caregivers for toddlers assume that they understand the child, however, they do not. Children are uniquely wired differently from adults and from one another. A child may be hyperactive, while another is not, some are aggressive too. All these behavioral patterns somehow contribute to the way the toddler throws tantrums. Understanding toddlers is not a passive exercise, it is done intentionally.
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CUT OFF TRIGGERS
Knowing fully well that the child will in a couple of years move beyond the toddler stage. It is essential to note that understanding toddlers is not a one-off exercise. It is a continuous, yet time-limited exercise. So, children either throw tantrums for the several reasons. Some of the reasons are to get attention, when they are in pain, or when they just want to be stubborn. Hence, parents and caregivers should study the child to know the circumstances surrounding the tantrums. A careful analysis of the circumstances helps understand them better. It also helps parents plan, prepare and even avoid such occurrences. If a child throws a tantrum any time he or she goes to the store with you, then you know taking along is not a good idea.
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CREATE DIVERSIONS
Like the example given above, there are some circumstances whereby cutting off the trigger is impossible. In such cases, diversions are a better alternative. Based on the premise that a toddler is discovering themself and their environment, hence, their attention is fleeting. So, when the meltdown starts, carefully create an activity or something to distract the attention. Stuff like toys and snacks work in this situation.
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KEEP TO YOUR PRINCIPLES
Children learn faster through what they see. If you are going to be effective with toddler tantrum management, you will need to be on top of your game. Parents often times give in to their toddler’s tantrums to save themselves from the embarrassment. Doing this reinforces the toddler’s behaviour. They quickly learn that the way to get what they want is by throwing a tantrum. For example, there are times to ignore, discuss, discipline and even give in during tantrums. Once you establish a response method to the tantrum, keep to it. Toddlers get the message more clearly when you are firm and assertive. However, if you are neither hot nor cold, then you are in for a long ride.
